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If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, wouldn't it stand to reason that....
so is everything else that we believe.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Happy New Year...
Yes, I am very aware that toady is not January 1, but it’s a day that’s just as equally important. Today is February 1, 2011….and that means that it has been exactly one year since February 1, 2010.
And why this is important?
The truth is for many of us, we often look at January as a fresh start, an opportunity to get focused and set goals for ourselves, a time to reflect on our lives and on how it’s been working…..or not!
January tends to generate a lot of excitement. We are fired-up about the list we’ve constructed and we are anxious to get moving. We jump in, tackling goals and then crossing them off with a sense of accomplishment.
We are taking charge of lives, 2011 is going to be the year!
Then the kids catch a cold, then we catch a cold, then we get some snow, then things get postponed and rescheduled, then a coworker comes to work sick, then we get sick, then we get some more snow, and then before you know it….it’s February 1st!
Like snot in a tissue, so were our intentions……
BLOWN!
Just as January brings much excitement, the months that follow can sometimes bring discouragement. We are disappointed in ourselves because we didn’t achieve what we set out to do. Things didn’t go quite the way we had planned.
But you know what, what else could we expect?
It’s the middle of winter, we’re cooped-up inside, there are a lot of dreary days, and everyone is doing their best to stay healthy. Not to mention we’re still working, we still have our families, and we still have busy lives. But yet we beat ourselves up when we can’t get to these “new” goals we have thrown into the equation!
But hey, I’ve got great news for you, today is February 1st !
Let’s take advantage of this opportunity. Instead of making a list of goals, let’s prioritize what is most important in our lives. Or instead of wanting more stuff, we can focus on being grateful for everything we already have. Maybe this is the perfect opportunity to set some boundaries in some areas that need attention….or possibly less of your attention.
Set yourself up for success, make sure your intentions are achievable so you can build on the momentum. This is a very important step. Sometimes we set the bar so high that we are bound to fail, we then beat-up on ourselves, become discouraged, and then throw in the towel.
So get out there and get some successes under your belt, feel proud of yourself and what you are accomplishing. Your new found enthusiasm will be just what the doctor ordered. And when things start to get comfortable or easy, that could be a sign that it’s time to raise the bar, but again, if you need an extension ladder to reach it, you’ve gone too far!
Just so you know, there’s a good chance the snow’s not finished and that the bugs are still creeping around, but don’t throw in the towel. As long as you continue to wake up each morning, let that be all the confirmation needed…..opportunity awaits!
And why this is important?
The truth is for many of us, we often look at January as a fresh start, an opportunity to get focused and set goals for ourselves, a time to reflect on our lives and on how it’s been working…..or not!
January tends to generate a lot of excitement. We are fired-up about the list we’ve constructed and we are anxious to get moving. We jump in, tackling goals and then crossing them off with a sense of accomplishment.
We are taking charge of lives, 2011 is going to be the year!
Then the kids catch a cold, then we catch a cold, then we get some snow, then things get postponed and rescheduled, then a coworker comes to work sick, then we get sick, then we get some more snow, and then before you know it….it’s February 1st!
Like snot in a tissue, so were our intentions……
BLOWN!
Just as January brings much excitement, the months that follow can sometimes bring discouragement. We are disappointed in ourselves because we didn’t achieve what we set out to do. Things didn’t go quite the way we had planned.
But you know what, what else could we expect?
It’s the middle of winter, we’re cooped-up inside, there are a lot of dreary days, and everyone is doing their best to stay healthy. Not to mention we’re still working, we still have our families, and we still have busy lives. But yet we beat ourselves up when we can’t get to these “new” goals we have thrown into the equation!
But hey, I’ve got great news for you, today is February 1st !
Let’s take advantage of this opportunity. Instead of making a list of goals, let’s prioritize what is most important in our lives. Or instead of wanting more stuff, we can focus on being grateful for everything we already have. Maybe this is the perfect opportunity to set some boundaries in some areas that need attention….or possibly less of your attention.
Set yourself up for success, make sure your intentions are achievable so you can build on the momentum. This is a very important step. Sometimes we set the bar so high that we are bound to fail, we then beat-up on ourselves, become discouraged, and then throw in the towel.
So get out there and get some successes under your belt, feel proud of yourself and what you are accomplishing. Your new found enthusiasm will be just what the doctor ordered. And when things start to get comfortable or easy, that could be a sign that it’s time to raise the bar, but again, if you need an extension ladder to reach it, you’ve gone too far!
Just so you know, there’s a good chance the snow’s not finished and that the bugs are still creeping around, but don’t throw in the towel. As long as you continue to wake up each morning, let that be all the confirmation needed…..opportunity awaits!
Friday, January 21, 2011
A Snow Day....or 2
Flush ice cubes down the toilet, wear your pants inside-out and backward, and don’t forget to place a spoon in a glass of water before you go to bed! If you have kids you know exactly what I’m referring to.
Oh, just a few of the proven methods for getting a snow day, and this time it worked so well that we actually tweaked out 2!
For a kid could there be anything more exciting than a snow day?
We know the answer is yes, there could be. It would be the excitement of the drive into work for those who didn’t have the luxury of staying home! Fortunately for me, I am not speaking from experience this time around, I was lucky enough to get to stay indoors these past few days.
Snow days are like Christmas and the summer (for me), they bring up so many childhood memories and feelings. That excitement and anticipation of what was to come, those carefree days where you get to sleep in and be lazy, or just the simple fact that I did not have to go to school was good enough for me.
A snow day could look something like this:
Once you were up, you gather all your gear and head out to find the biggest hill in walking distance, which would have been my cousins and their neighbor’s backyard, and then you went sled riding for hours, literally. And more times than not, there were a few good fights with my brothers and sisters, and I am not referring to snow ball fights, I mean fist fights! And about an hour after you reached the point where you couldn’t feel your fingers and toes anymore, we’d decide it was time to head back home. You then trudge through the house with your wet boots, dropping all your wet clothes right where you know mom wants them…in the middle of the floor, then get yourself a blanket and fight over who gets to sit on which register….of course while drinking a cup of hot chocolate! Ahhh, the good old days!
I have already passed these traditions down to my own children!
Oh yeah, can’t forget the video games, ipods, and eating popcorn!
And for those who were wondering, no, we (meaning me and my husband) don't typically dress our dog in clothes, but the kids sure love to! As I have said in previous posts, that's just something that she'll need to tolerate because they're the ones who play with her! And for those who might have been worried.....
Yes, Abby still has her beloved soccer ball!
Happy Snow Day!
Friday, January 14, 2011
All We Need Is...
I have a hunch. I would guess that anyone who lived through the 60's, anyone who has grown up in the house of someone living through the 60’s, or frankly, just about anyone living could inserted the same word to finish off this statement.
I just asked my 9 and 11 year old, and even they did! Although they don’t know the originator, they did know the word I was fishing for. I would guess that it’s made its way into commercials, movies, documentaries, and has been honored by many artists over the years. It is a clear and easy message that can be understood by all.
All we need is…
LOVE
To give and receive love is imperative for the growth and survival of human beings, it is absolutely necessary for a healthy lifestyle, and love provides the nurturing that each of us needs-no matter what our age. Love comes naturally…
Or so they say.
If this were the truth, then why is our world filled with so many struggling, hurt, resentful, depressed, and angry individuals?
Now I’m no PhD or doctor of any sort, I’m not a licensed therapist or counselor, and I’m not even a degreed teacher at any level… but I think I’m going to take a crack at this one.
They forgot to tell us!
Do you remember way back when we were in elementary school learning the basic needs that every human needs for survival? Well I just figured out that somehow all of our text books had a misprint…and no one caught it! (Boy, I’d hate to be the one who was responsible for that!) So I did a little research and found the missing information, feel free to pass it on to anyone that you think may need the update!
Love is acceptance and respect for each other and our individual preferences. Love is investing in ourselves and others enough to say we matter. Love is showing compassion.
Love is living. Living is learning, growing, thriving, and contributing. Contributing is being a part of each others lives, playing a role in our communities’, it’s paying it forward and giving back. When we give back it shows we care, it shows what we’re dedicated and committed to. And when we stand by our commitments we are a living example of what’s possible.
Because of love we experience joy, satisfaction and pleasure.
Because of love we experience sadness, disappointment and struggle.
It’s all one in the same.
This is life.
I just asked my 9 and 11 year old, and even they did! Although they don’t know the originator, they did know the word I was fishing for. I would guess that it’s made its way into commercials, movies, documentaries, and has been honored by many artists over the years. It is a clear and easy message that can be understood by all.
All we need is…
LOVE
To give and receive love is imperative for the growth and survival of human beings, it is absolutely necessary for a healthy lifestyle, and love provides the nurturing that each of us needs-no matter what our age. Love comes naturally…
Or so they say.
If this were the truth, then why is our world filled with so many struggling, hurt, resentful, depressed, and angry individuals?
Now I’m no PhD or doctor of any sort, I’m not a licensed therapist or counselor, and I’m not even a degreed teacher at any level… but I think I’m going to take a crack at this one.
They forgot to tell us!
Do you remember way back when we were in elementary school learning the basic needs that every human needs for survival? Well I just figured out that somehow all of our text books had a misprint…and no one caught it! (Boy, I’d hate to be the one who was responsible for that!) So I did a little research and found the missing information, feel free to pass it on to anyone that you think may need the update!
Love is acceptance and respect for each other and our individual preferences. Love is investing in ourselves and others enough to say we matter. Love is showing compassion.
Love is living. Living is learning, growing, thriving, and contributing. Contributing is being a part of each others lives, playing a role in our communities’, it’s paying it forward and giving back. When we give back it shows we care, it shows what we’re dedicated and committed to. And when we stand by our commitments we are a living example of what’s possible.
Because of love we experience joy, satisfaction and pleasure.
Because of love we experience sadness, disappointment and struggle.
It’s all one in the same.
This is life.
Monday, January 3, 2011
Are You Ready to Come Out and Face Another Year?
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| Happy New Year! |
As I reflect back on 2010 I realize how truly blessed I am. I have a family that I love more than anything (and they even love me back!), I have a successful career with the greatest clients ever, I have a bazillion friends that love and support me, and a year that has provided more than its fair share of exciting opportunities. What more could I ask for!
It is my intention that this year will be even better, and it’s already proving to be true, even though we’re only a few days into it. I will share my secret for achieving such quick success, but under one condition. You don’t keep it a secret!
This time I’m not going to wait around until 2012 to reflect back on how great my life is. I’m going to do it right now, I’m going to do it each day!
It is my intention that today will be the best day ever. Today I am blessed and grateful for all that I have. Each day that I open my eyes I am aware of the gift that I have been given…one more opportunity to be the best that I can and to be present and available for those around me. Today is one more chance to witness and participate in the miracles that are taking place every moment.
And I have also concluded, the more aware I become, the more corny I become! But man, it does seem that the older I get, the more I realize just how precious life is. And I don’t want to spoil one more minute!
So here's to a great day!
Cheers!
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year
It’s hard to believe the holidays are upon us. With Christmas only 4 days away and the New Year just around the corner, I must admit I catch myself wondering ”where has the time gone?” Even my 9 and 11 year old have asked if I had noticed that the weeks were going by so quickly!
For me, simply the thought of what goes on in these last two months has me feeling exhausted and anxious. There are parities with the family, get-together’s with friends, winter parties at school (I guess they don’t want to offend anyone by saying holiday or Christmas), and work luncheons and dinners. Maybe even a neighborhood party, although we have yet to be invited to one of them, but I do know of others who attend them in their own neighborhoods! There’s shopping and baking, eating…
and more eating, parades and shows, decorations and lights, and then throw in some snow…just to add a touch of excitement!
And boy do the people start coming out of the woodwork. You know how it is, your fathers second cousins bothers’ wife’s mother-in-law’s…sister, is hosting a party on Sunday and would really love to see you and the kids!!!! Ok, not really, but there are times that when I feel so stretched that it actually feels a little like that!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…
It’s an extremely busy time of year.
Many feel it is full of hype, stress, and expectation.
And there’s also large number of folks who suffer depression through the holidays. Perhaps it’s the memories of a loved one who has passed or a divorce that has the kids away this year, maybe times are hard and you just don’t have the money to pull it off. I have heard more than once “I would love to just get out of town and skip the entire season”.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…
It’s a magical time of year.
For many it is filled with wonderful memories, anticipation, and child-like excitement.
And there’s also a large number of folks who are extremely generous through the holidays, going above and beyond to help those in need, donating money and volunteering time to a favorite charity or organization. There are even people out there who wish it could be Christmas all year round…I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true!!
It's the most wonderful time of the year...
The truth is that both sides are reality. So how do we make it though this time of year with the bottom being our focus (ha-ha, I mean the second part of what I have written, not literally our bottoms…although that is something we do need to be cautious of!)
It’s Balance
It may be a bit more challenging through the holidays and there's a good chance that others may criticize your decisions, possibly even those closest to us. After all, each of us has an expectation of what we think the season should be like, who we should spend our time with, and how we should be spending our time. We know what’s important us and we would love for everyone to be on board with it. And if life were like a TV program, it would all work out perfectly!
But it’s not!
I know my experience is not too different from others…my parents are divorced, my husband’s parents are divorced, and of our combined 8 siblings 4 come from divorced families, and there is one who is also divorced. We’ve got a lot to work with!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…
The best gift we can offer is simply being present. Showing up and enjoying the moment, spending quality time with those we love and care for most. When we make this our priority, the other stuff just doesn’t seem that important any more. When it comes to our family celebrations it’s not about that one particular day, but rather a focus on being together.
How freeing it is to know that you can sit back, relax, and be in tune to what’s going on around you, knowing there’s nowhere else that you need to be.
So when you catch yourself feeling a bit stressed, placing expectations that don’t need to be there, or worrying about things that are out of your control. Shrug your shoulders, put a smile on your face, and sing out loud ‘til your convinced…
It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
fyi...you can do this year round!
For me, simply the thought of what goes on in these last two months has me feeling exhausted and anxious. There are parities with the family, get-together’s with friends, winter parties at school (I guess they don’t want to offend anyone by saying holiday or Christmas), and work luncheons and dinners. Maybe even a neighborhood party, although we have yet to be invited to one of them, but I do know of others who attend them in their own neighborhoods! There’s shopping and baking, eating…
and more eating, parades and shows, decorations and lights, and then throw in some snow…just to add a touch of excitement!
And boy do the people start coming out of the woodwork. You know how it is, your fathers second cousins bothers’ wife’s mother-in-law’s…sister, is hosting a party on Sunday and would really love to see you and the kids!!!! Ok, not really, but there are times that when I feel so stretched that it actually feels a little like that!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…
It’s an extremely busy time of year.
Many feel it is full of hype, stress, and expectation.
And there’s also large number of folks who suffer depression through the holidays. Perhaps it’s the memories of a loved one who has passed or a divorce that has the kids away this year, maybe times are hard and you just don’t have the money to pull it off. I have heard more than once “I would love to just get out of town and skip the entire season”.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…
It’s a magical time of year.
For many it is filled with wonderful memories, anticipation, and child-like excitement.
And there’s also a large number of folks who are extremely generous through the holidays, going above and beyond to help those in need, donating money and volunteering time to a favorite charity or organization. There are even people out there who wish it could be Christmas all year round…I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true!!
It's the most wonderful time of the year...
The truth is that both sides are reality. So how do we make it though this time of year with the bottom being our focus (ha-ha, I mean the second part of what I have written, not literally our bottoms…although that is something we do need to be cautious of!)
It’s Balance
It may be a bit more challenging through the holidays and there's a good chance that others may criticize your decisions, possibly even those closest to us. After all, each of us has an expectation of what we think the season should be like, who we should spend our time with, and how we should be spending our time. We know what’s important us and we would love for everyone to be on board with it. And if life were like a TV program, it would all work out perfectly!
But it’s not!
I know my experience is not too different from others…my parents are divorced, my husband’s parents are divorced, and of our combined 8 siblings 4 come from divorced families, and there is one who is also divorced. We’ve got a lot to work with!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year…
The best gift we can offer is simply being present. Showing up and enjoying the moment, spending quality time with those we love and care for most. When we make this our priority, the other stuff just doesn’t seem that important any more. When it comes to our family celebrations it’s not about that one particular day, but rather a focus on being together.
How freeing it is to know that you can sit back, relax, and be in tune to what’s going on around you, knowing there’s nowhere else that you need to be.
So when you catch yourself feeling a bit stressed, placing expectations that don’t need to be there, or worrying about things that are out of your control. Shrug your shoulders, put a smile on your face, and sing out loud ‘til your convinced…
It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
fyi...you can do this year round!
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Today is a Great Day!
I have this routine that I do each morning as I drive to work. It’s a habit I started years ago and it helps to get me “geared-up” and I also do it to start my day on a positive note.
I focus on my intentions for the day and how I can best prepare myself for the full work schedule I’m about to tackle. It’s been a very useful tool, keeping me focused on the excitement I have for my clients and my job, it helps me to feel more energized and motivated, and it also assists with getting the creative juices flowing.
What am I doing?
I have a mantra that I repeat to myself each day. I’m sure I look like a crazy woman talking to myself as I’m driving down the road…boy if they only knew! But it is so important that I talk out loud because it helps me to be aware of exactly the message that I am telling myself…
"Today is going to be a great day. God’s blessings are chasing me down and over taking me. I will have success in everything I do. I have a schedule full of clients that I love to be with and they love to be with me. Today I will communicate clearly so I am aware of the needs of each of my clients and I will use my expertise and creativity to best provide them with a great and achievable style (I am a hair dresser for those who might not know). I will do my best to not participate in gossip and to not judge myself when I make mistakes."
But what I have found by doing this for some time now is that I truly believed that I was giving myself a great message, but in reality, parts of my message are more focused on what it is that I don’t want, or my message is leaving things to chance, rather than me being responsible for making it happen.
Today’s going to be a great day…
Really, then what are you waiting for? I realized I was saying this to myself and I had already been awake for four hours. Why didn’t I decide right when I woke up that indeed today is a great day! I have a choice, am I committed to having a great day or will I wait to see how all the circumstances play out before I make that decision?
I will not participate in gossip…
This sounds VERY difficult to me, but if I were to say, “I will speak kindly of others and acknowledge the good intentions they have. Or, today I will be open and accepting of those around me”. These statements are positive and they clearly state what my intentions are. They will make others feel good about themselves in turn make me feel proud of the choices I am making.
I will not judge myself…
Yeah right, and I know I’m not alone in this boat! We are our own biggest critics. We expect and demand so much from ourselves. But with (a lot!) of practice, we can even turn this one around. I started playing around with messages like, “Today I will be open to leaning from the choices and decisions that I make. Everything that I do today provides me with important information so that I can be better tomorrow. Today I will be my best. I am excited about all the opportunities that today will provide.”
What a difference these statements make. When I slightly change them and focus on what I want, they become empowering. They make me feel excited…I can’t wait to get each day started. I am excited about my life, I have a great family that I love to be with and they accept me even with all my quirks! I am excited to get to work, I get to hang out with my clients and have fun. I am excited that I am surrounded by so many people who are there to support me.
TODAY IS A GREAT DAY!
Monday, November 29, 2010
Abby's been thinking...
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| Do these glasses make me look smart? |
My goal in life is to be as good of a person my dog already thinks I am. ~Author Unknown
This is Abby and she’s our two year old Golden Retriever. We love her to pieces and I don’t hesitate to admit that she’s a bit spoiled by everone in this family. But in this house being spoiled comes with a price tag…she has to tolerate the kids! Actually, she’s very patient and laid back and just goes with the flow. When I watch her I am amazed and bewildered that she somehow seems to fit right in as one of “the kids”!
This is our first experience as a family beginning at the puppy stage, and I never knew it could be so entertaining. Only days after we got her she got her tongue stuck to the frozen fence...and we didn’t even have to triple-dog-dare her! And she has always been a very generous dog, eager to bring us presents that she gathers from around the house-underwear, socks, a tooth bush, pantyhose, bra, stuffed animals, bracelets, toilet paper tubes, stockings, rubber bands, boots, toys, ornaments off the X-mas tree-really anything that fits, and as much as she can fit in!
She also has quite the appetite,eating more than her fair share of logs, branches, leaves, rocks, concrete, bees, and butterflies. She has also eaten knock-out roses (2), crepe myrtles (5), a small cherry tree and Japanese maple, each down to the ground.
But this is a dog that has her priorities straight. Abby doesn't miss out on a chance to do what she loves most. Whether it's going for a dip in the pool, playing football with the boys, catching some Frisbee, and you can never go wrong with a good round of tug-of-war, but her most favorite would be playing with her soccer ball.
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| Now this is the life! |
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| The beloved soccer ball! |
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| I got this one! |
When we take walks she pulls like crazy while on her leash, but without it you can barely walk without tripping because she stays so close. And there's a rumor going around that she has pulled the socks right off my sons feet one night while he was sleeping...I certainly wouldn't put it past her! She loves to put her paw up to have you scratch the top and bottom, and if you’ll just pet her when you come over to visit she is putty in your hands, literally, her eyes roll back and she melts down onto her back!
Oh, and Abby loves to get good and comfy, for some reason she has taken to sleeping on the steps and has nothing against cuddling up with a good….
And just for the record, Abby is not the only goofy dog that we’ve had. When Rob and I were young we had a Siberian husky named Jaws but goofy is not the best fit for her. The more appropriate word would be CRAZY! She was wild and crazy and loved to run, and run, and run, and run. Just what you would expect of a husky, right? Not me, I was totally unaware she’d be like that, I just wanted her because she was so adorable and fluffy!
That dog would bolt on any given opportunity. But we had a trick up our sleeves, at the time Rob and I both smoked, so we would take the cellophane off our packs and crumble it up. She thought it was the treat bag and would come running...she fell for it every time!
That dog would bolt on any given opportunity. But we had a trick up our sleeves, at the time Rob and I both smoked, so we would take the cellophane off our packs and crumble it up. She thought it was the treat bag and would come running...she fell for it every time!
And this dog was like Houdini, she could escape from anywhere. At one time we had a fenced yard, an electric fence, and she was also on a wire cord. Some how she still managed to get out. Once she made it over the fence but had to hang out in the neighbors’ bushes until we realized she was there…at least the leash kept her from running away that time.
She was hit by a car 3 times- one not serious, one somewhat bad, and one pretty serious.
We got a ticket once because she would get loose and go after ducks that a couple had been raising for their grandchildren. One time she even carried a duck back to our house, and another time we had to pay vet bills for one that she injured. This was one of her favorite places to visit at the time.
She was stolen from our backyard once and we think our landlord set it up, I still haven’t figured out why they would want to do that!
She was stolen from our backyard once and we think our landlord set it up, I still haven’t figured out why they would want to do that!
And boy was that dog fast, she could catch birds and squirrels and would stand her ground to any intruding raccoons and possums. We would try to get her inside, but she'd never come 'til she knew she had things taken care of.
If you were sitting on a couch she could jump over the couch…and you, really!
She also had this grass phobia and would stand on the edge of the driveway and just hang over when she needed to go to the bathroom, she even choose to go right on the driveway sometimes. And she would lay on that driveway whether it was a blasting 100 degrees or pouring down rain outside. She especially loved to stay out during the winter, she would curl up in a ball and we would enjoy measuring the snow that would build-up on her. She never wanted to come in, we even left the doors open to the garage, but she never bothered. This one time it was raining so hard, and of course she was laying in the middle of the driveway, so I opened the door and yelled out “what are you doing stupid”, and no lie, my husband comes walking out of the garage looking guilty...he thought he was busted for sneaking cigarettes! He had quit for about a year I think!
Jaws was pretty old by the time we had the kids, but they sure loved her. Putting her down was one of the saddest experiences in my life. As an adult it was the first time I had experienced death. I don’t know what I expected, but I remember sitting there thinking, oh my god, just a second ago she was alive, and now she's gone...just like that. We drove away only having our memories of her.
Our pets play such an important role in our lives. We love and value them as "part of the family". We celebrate their birthdays, give them presents during the holidays, let them out to play with their buddies, take them for a spin in the car, and we even find places where we can vacation with them. Heck, there are a lot of people who would choose their pet over any human!
We love to tell our pet stories, I love to tell my pet stories! And I have no doubt that for ever story that I have just told, you could match with some great "tails" about your pets! My intention was to make a short, cute little post about how great our pets are and why I believe dogs have the deal figured out, but once I got started, I just couldn't stop! So here it is, simply put:
Our pets play such an important role in our lives. We love and value them as "part of the family". We celebrate their birthdays, give them presents during the holidays, let them out to play with their buddies, take them for a spin in the car, and we even find places where we can vacation with them. Heck, there are a lot of people who would choose their pet over any human!
We love to tell our pet stories, I love to tell my pet stories! And I have no doubt that for ever story that I have just told, you could match with some great "tails" about your pets! My intention was to make a short, cute little post about how great our pets are and why I believe dogs have the deal figured out, but once I got started, I just couldn't stop! So here it is, simply put:
- Dogs love us no matter what, and don't hold grudges.
- They take advantage of any opportunity to spend time with the family.
- Dogs know the imortantance of spending time out doors.
- They love to play and have fun...and also know how to enterain themselves.
- Dogs want to be friends with everyone!
- They accept us no matter our faults and imperfections.
We still have a ways to go if we want to catch up to them, but I know they will continue to teach us even when we go astray!
P.S. Unfortunately I didn't have any pictures of Jaws readily available to post, back in the day we had to use camera's with film!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Kicking "busy" to the curb
“Hey Julie, do you want to meet for lunch?
I’d really love to, but work is so busy. I just can’t get away right now.”
“Hey Mom, can you come outside and play with us?
Not right now, I’m busy. I’ve got all this stuff I have to get done.”
“I hope the family can make it to the party this weekend.
I’m so sorry, the kids have games and there are projects around the house that need attention. We’re just too busy right now, but let’s schedule something when things slow down”
Does any of this sound familiar to you? Is there something in your life that dominates the majority or your time?
Over the past couple of years I have been trying to take the “busy” out of my schedule. At first, I really didn’t think it was possible, believing that everything I did was necessary. But what I found was that being busy is a choice, and a lot of what I was busy with really didn’t serve me.
I think it is important for us to recognize the reasons that we are busy if we really want to slow down and start getting to what’s most important, to become responsible for the quality of our life (another choice). The reality is that a good portion of what we do is necessary, it enables us to be available and to provide for our families, but on the other hand, a lot of what we do is just “time-fillers” and nonsense.
When we are so busy, it’s a clear sign that we are out of balance. So, just what is it that keeps us so busy? This list may provide some insights or even a new perspective on busy, you may even find that keeping busy may be something more than just work, family, and the normal run-arounds.
Our jobs demand a lot from us. It seems with the drop in the economy employers are making cuts, downsizing, and merging positions together. Our already demanding jobs seem to be getting increasingly…more demanding. Creating balance in this situation may take some creative strategizing. Is it possible to delegate some of your work load or could you go in an hour earlier so you can get home an hour earlier? Perhaps it’s time to update your resume and put some feelers out. And you never know, after investigating what’s available, you may find that right where you are isn’t so bad after all!
We don’t know how to say NO. Are you afraid of hurting someone’s feelings? Do you over volunteer yourself? Are there so many things that excite you, and you take them on all at once. I once read “say no to the good, so you can say yes to the great”. Wow, what a powerful statement. And let’s not forget, when we say yes when we real want to say no, it is a sure way to set ourselves up for burn-out, to become angry and resentful, and could lead to us avoiding friends or family because of it. We may even blame them, when all along it was out inability to say no that got us there in the first place
Is it an excuse? Is there something you really don’t want to do, but you don’t have the courage to say no, so you claim “I’m busy”. At the time it may appear that being busy is an easy way out…but only until the offer presents itself again! Be honest, communicate what you need. Maybe it’s more important to stay home on Sunday to spend time with your family…who wouldn’t respect that!
We are avoiding something.Things aren’t going so good at home, so you work extra hours just to stay away longer. There is something you are hiding from your family or friends so you stay busy so they won’t find out what it is. You may think others aren’t aware…but most often they know that something’s up.
The truth is, at times I can be quite the master of busy, so this list could go on forever if I’d let it! But what I’ve realized is the more I practice and the more I remind myself of my commitment to slow down, the more I have time to do what’s most important to me. My husband has even said that he is jealous of my ability to “do nothing” sometimes…there may have been some underlying message in there, but I chose not to pick up on it!!
What can we do to start making changes?
First start by being honest with yourself, make a list of all your daily activities, and then question why you do them. Again, some are absolutely necessary, but what are the ones that aren’t? This would be a great time to do some journaling and reflect on what changes you would like to make.
And then replace busy for balance.
You could start by looking at 3 or 4 of the most important areas in your life and determine how much of your time you are currently devoting to each. Then start tweaking. If an area has been neglected- schedule something in. But the key here is not just adding into your already busy schedule, but to also find area’s where you need to make some cuts. Nothing is set in stone. You can always try something new if it’s not working out the way you planned.
And just remember how easy it is to fall back into old, comfortable habits, even when they're not what we want. This will take commitment, it may even feel like you are making sacrifices. And your old ways may be tempting because they are the easier choice at first, but be patient with yourself and do the best you can. I promise, if this is important, you will be greatly rewarded!
Who needs our attention right now, but may feel as if we have turned our backs on them because we are too busy? How many great opportunities have gone unnoticed because we didn’t have the time to slow down and take notice?
In the end, would you rather be remembered for all the tasks you have completed, or the quality of life you lived and the relationships that you’ve developed?
I’d really love to, but work is so busy. I just can’t get away right now.”
“Hey Mom, can you come outside and play with us?
Not right now, I’m busy. I’ve got all this stuff I have to get done.”
“I hope the family can make it to the party this weekend.
I’m so sorry, the kids have games and there are projects around the house that need attention. We’re just too busy right now, but let’s schedule something when things slow down”
Does any of this sound familiar to you? Is there something in your life that dominates the majority or your time?
Over the past couple of years I have been trying to take the “busy” out of my schedule. At first, I really didn’t think it was possible, believing that everything I did was necessary. But what I found was that being busy is a choice, and a lot of what I was busy with really didn’t serve me.
I think it is important for us to recognize the reasons that we are busy if we really want to slow down and start getting to what’s most important, to become responsible for the quality of our life (another choice). The reality is that a good portion of what we do is necessary, it enables us to be available and to provide for our families, but on the other hand, a lot of what we do is just “time-fillers” and nonsense.
When we are so busy, it’s a clear sign that we are out of balance. So, just what is it that keeps us so busy? This list may provide some insights or even a new perspective on busy, you may even find that keeping busy may be something more than just work, family, and the normal run-arounds.
Our jobs demand a lot from us. It seems with the drop in the economy employers are making cuts, downsizing, and merging positions together. Our already demanding jobs seem to be getting increasingly…more demanding. Creating balance in this situation may take some creative strategizing. Is it possible to delegate some of your work load or could you go in an hour earlier so you can get home an hour earlier? Perhaps it’s time to update your resume and put some feelers out. And you never know, after investigating what’s available, you may find that right where you are isn’t so bad after all!
We don’t know how to say NO. Are you afraid of hurting someone’s feelings? Do you over volunteer yourself? Are there so many things that excite you, and you take them on all at once. I once read “say no to the good, so you can say yes to the great”. Wow, what a powerful statement. And let’s not forget, when we say yes when we real want to say no, it is a sure way to set ourselves up for burn-out, to become angry and resentful, and could lead to us avoiding friends or family because of it. We may even blame them, when all along it was out inability to say no that got us there in the first place
Is it an excuse? Is there something you really don’t want to do, but you don’t have the courage to say no, so you claim “I’m busy”. At the time it may appear that being busy is an easy way out…but only until the offer presents itself again! Be honest, communicate what you need. Maybe it’s more important to stay home on Sunday to spend time with your family…who wouldn’t respect that!
We are avoiding something.Things aren’t going so good at home, so you work extra hours just to stay away longer. There is something you are hiding from your family or friends so you stay busy so they won’t find out what it is. You may think others aren’t aware…but most often they know that something’s up.
The truth is, at times I can be quite the master of busy, so this list could go on forever if I’d let it! But what I’ve realized is the more I practice and the more I remind myself of my commitment to slow down, the more I have time to do what’s most important to me. My husband has even said that he is jealous of my ability to “do nothing” sometimes…there may have been some underlying message in there, but I chose not to pick up on it!!
What can we do to start making changes?
First start by being honest with yourself, make a list of all your daily activities, and then question why you do them. Again, some are absolutely necessary, but what are the ones that aren’t? This would be a great time to do some journaling and reflect on what changes you would like to make.
And then replace busy for balance.
You could start by looking at 3 or 4 of the most important areas in your life and determine how much of your time you are currently devoting to each. Then start tweaking. If an area has been neglected- schedule something in. But the key here is not just adding into your already busy schedule, but to also find area’s where you need to make some cuts. Nothing is set in stone. You can always try something new if it’s not working out the way you planned.
And just remember how easy it is to fall back into old, comfortable habits, even when they're not what we want. This will take commitment, it may even feel like you are making sacrifices. And your old ways may be tempting because they are the easier choice at first, but be patient with yourself and do the best you can. I promise, if this is important, you will be greatly rewarded!
Who needs our attention right now, but may feel as if we have turned our backs on them because we are too busy? How many great opportunities have gone unnoticed because we didn’t have the time to slow down and take notice?
In the end, would you rather be remembered for all the tasks you have completed, or the quality of life you lived and the relationships that you’ve developed?
Friday, November 12, 2010
Setting the Record Straight
I’d like to set the record straight before we get too committed in this deal.
Not every blog I write will prove to be an inspirational masterpiece overflowing with words of the utmost importance. Could it be expected that every post would be filled with sentence after sentence of imaginative ideas and reflective insights that will inevitably result in a profound impact, possibly altering the course of life as you know it from this day forward…or at least until you get up from your computer! My ego would love to believe this is not true, but reality does tell a different tale!
These are the reasons I write. First, for me. To prioritize and stay focused on what’s most important in my life, to help bring clarity to the thoughts that circle around in my head, and to work through some of the challenges I face in my days. Second, I write because I’m suppose to, and I know this is true because I enjoy it! And third, I write because I want to make a difference in this world and this is one of the ways that I can do it.
And why I am telling you this? Well, because I am really, really, really stepping out of my comfort zone by sharing with others that I write this blog. It would stand to reason that if I am taking the time to write this, that I would hope to have people actually reading it! Although that makes total sense, that's not the way it was working for me. I was too chicken to tell people for fear of what they might think.
So this is what I want you to know for today, and tomorrow, and the next day:
1. I am taking myself off the hook. Sheeww, I feel better already! There is nothing I need to do other than be myself.
2. You can take yourself off the hook. Sometimes my posts won’t resonate, and that’s ok! We are all the same, but yet so incomparably and sometimes so complicatedly different. I just really appreciate that you’re supporting me and continue to check back in (or you could do it the easy way by subscribing…please!)
3. YOU are the only person who has your answers. Beware of trying to make someone’s answers fit for your own. Beware when someone is trying to convince you that they have your answers. We may have our own ideas, we may have our own insights, and we may indeed be a trusted resource, but we don’t hold your answers! Trust yourself, the answers are always there. They may not always be obvious at first, they may not be the ones you want, and sometimes they may be very difficult to make, but they are always within you.
4. It's important to have healthy outlets. Not only is it is a nasty trap to keep everything bottled up inside ourselves, but the stress, anxiety, and depression that accompany could prove to be potentially dangerous to your health and well-being. Get outside and take a walk-enjoy the scenery, breathe the fresh air, soak up some sunshine-it’s free and it’s the best! Keep a journal close by so you can jot down thoughts, feelings, or great idea’s you may have throughout the day. You could throw football with your kids or play some corn-hole with your neighbors. Take advantage of the opportunity to experiment and try something new!
5. We all possess the ability to make a difference in this world. What do you love, where does your passion lie, how can you start using your gifts to impact others? Just take one step and see where it leads, if you like it-take another, if you don’t-take it off your list and move on to the next.
6. Step out of your comfort zone…Yikes! It does take courage, it does involve risk, and it will most likely feel uncomfortable. But you know how it works, once you do something a few times it gets easier! Practice with someone that you trust and then start branching out. And don't overlook being proud of yourelf and celebrating the steps you’ve taken. All too often we skip over this because we don't want to look too full-of ouselves. You're smart, you know the difference between the two!
That’s the jist of why I’m here, what about you?
Not every blog I write will prove to be an inspirational masterpiece overflowing with words of the utmost importance. Could it be expected that every post would be filled with sentence after sentence of imaginative ideas and reflective insights that will inevitably result in a profound impact, possibly altering the course of life as you know it from this day forward…or at least until you get up from your computer! My ego would love to believe this is not true, but reality does tell a different tale!
These are the reasons I write. First, for me. To prioritize and stay focused on what’s most important in my life, to help bring clarity to the thoughts that circle around in my head, and to work through some of the challenges I face in my days. Second, I write because I’m suppose to, and I know this is true because I enjoy it! And third, I write because I want to make a difference in this world and this is one of the ways that I can do it.
And why I am telling you this? Well, because I am really, really, really stepping out of my comfort zone by sharing with others that I write this blog. It would stand to reason that if I am taking the time to write this, that I would hope to have people actually reading it! Although that makes total sense, that's not the way it was working for me. I was too chicken to tell people for fear of what they might think.
So this is what I want you to know for today, and tomorrow, and the next day:
1. I am taking myself off the hook. Sheeww, I feel better already! There is nothing I need to do other than be myself.
2. You can take yourself off the hook. Sometimes my posts won’t resonate, and that’s ok! We are all the same, but yet so incomparably and sometimes so complicatedly different. I just really appreciate that you’re supporting me and continue to check back in (or you could do it the easy way by subscribing…please!)
3. YOU are the only person who has your answers. Beware of trying to make someone’s answers fit for your own. Beware when someone is trying to convince you that they have your answers. We may have our own ideas, we may have our own insights, and we may indeed be a trusted resource, but we don’t hold your answers! Trust yourself, the answers are always there. They may not always be obvious at first, they may not be the ones you want, and sometimes they may be very difficult to make, but they are always within you.
4. It's important to have healthy outlets. Not only is it is a nasty trap to keep everything bottled up inside ourselves, but the stress, anxiety, and depression that accompany could prove to be potentially dangerous to your health and well-being. Get outside and take a walk-enjoy the scenery, breathe the fresh air, soak up some sunshine-it’s free and it’s the best! Keep a journal close by so you can jot down thoughts, feelings, or great idea’s you may have throughout the day. You could throw football with your kids or play some corn-hole with your neighbors. Take advantage of the opportunity to experiment and try something new!
5. We all possess the ability to make a difference in this world. What do you love, where does your passion lie, how can you start using your gifts to impact others? Just take one step and see where it leads, if you like it-take another, if you don’t-take it off your list and move on to the next.
6. Step out of your comfort zone…Yikes! It does take courage, it does involve risk, and it will most likely feel uncomfortable. But you know how it works, once you do something a few times it gets easier! Practice with someone that you trust and then start branching out. And don't overlook being proud of yourelf and celebrating the steps you’ve taken. All too often we skip over this because we don't want to look too full-of ouselves. You're smart, you know the difference between the two!
That’s the jist of why I’m here, what about you?
Monday, November 8, 2010
Forget about calling it Politics
Have you ever been told not to talk politics? Do you know someone who keeps their political views and opinions to themselves because those are “private” matters? Do you ever argue with someone simply because they are for the opposing party?
When I think of politics it can feel overwhelming, even at times just a little too big to grasp. It’s confusing and can be very frustrating, leaving me with the feeling that it is out of my hands.
Well, I have an idea.
What if we were to stop calling it politics?
What if we were to take away that bigness of the word politics, and make it simple? What if we saw it as…
The ideas and opinions that we generate, the decisions that we make, and then the course of action we choose to take.
This feels more real to me, sounds a little more like “Life”.
So what has us sometimes unwilling to share our thoughts and ideas regarding what we believe to be important in life? I’ve jotted down some idea’s, you might have some others you can mentally add to this list.
We feel hopeless. It feels too big, so why even bother? What difference can one person ever make?
We avoid conflict. Maybe for some politics and arguing go hand and hand and the energy it takes to fight, just isn’t worth it.
We are Closed-off. Do we open ourselves to hearing what others have to say, or do we dismiss their views because they don’t align with ours? Maybe we are a little too stubborn, tightly holding our beliefs with no desire to “loosen-up” and expand our minds to the possibilities that are out there.
Fear. Maybe we are afraid that we might be criticized and judged for our opinions, or fear we might offend someone. Or maybe you’re like me, I am afraid to give my opinion sometimes because what if in return I am asked a question that I might not be able to answer intelligently?
With all that being said, wouldn’t It stand to reason that in a country of over 310,000,000 people, there are going to be a few out there who disagree with you? Absolutely there are! So why are we so invested in judging, criticizing, and arguing with each other, when we would all be better served respecting and honoring the unique individuals that we are. And we could even take it a step further by not only allowing others to have their voice, but also having a genuine interest in what they are saying!
So this inspired me to write a new bill, one that gives us the ability to reclaim personal responsibility for ourselves.
Free will. I was born with a brain. I alone am responsible for the thoughts I have, the choices that I make, and the actions that I take.
Freedom of Speech. I was born with a voice. I am the only one responsible for the words that come out of my mouth. How do others hear me? Are my words filled with poison, or are they full of acceptance, hope, and the encouragement that we all so desperately need?
The Freedom to Love. I was born with a heart. Do I offer kindness and compassion to those around me? Do I take in to regards how my decisions affect others, not just what’s good for me? Do I lend a helping hand when it’s needed, choosing not to judge the reason why it is needed?
The freedom to get out there and make a difference in this world. I was born with a body. We are meant to be present in this world, we are meant to get out and serve. For most organizations that are serving others in need, having a body there is just as imperative as the donations they receive. Also, do I nourish my body with the food, exercise, and rest that are necessary to keep me energized? Am I doing what it takes to stay healthy so I can enjoy life for as long as possible and continue showing-up?
Imagine how different our world will be once we all claim responsibility for our birth rights (which is really my way of saying blessings…I just wanted to make sure I was being politically correct!)
When I think of politics it can feel overwhelming, even at times just a little too big to grasp. It’s confusing and can be very frustrating, leaving me with the feeling that it is out of my hands.
Well, I have an idea.
What if we were to stop calling it politics?
What if we were to take away that bigness of the word politics, and make it simple? What if we saw it as…
The ideas and opinions that we generate, the decisions that we make, and then the course of action we choose to take.
This feels more real to me, sounds a little more like “Life”.
So what has us sometimes unwilling to share our thoughts and ideas regarding what we believe to be important in life? I’ve jotted down some idea’s, you might have some others you can mentally add to this list.
We feel hopeless. It feels too big, so why even bother? What difference can one person ever make?
We avoid conflict. Maybe for some politics and arguing go hand and hand and the energy it takes to fight, just isn’t worth it.
We are Closed-off. Do we open ourselves to hearing what others have to say, or do we dismiss their views because they don’t align with ours? Maybe we are a little too stubborn, tightly holding our beliefs with no desire to “loosen-up” and expand our minds to the possibilities that are out there.
Fear. Maybe we are afraid that we might be criticized and judged for our opinions, or fear we might offend someone. Or maybe you’re like me, I am afraid to give my opinion sometimes because what if in return I am asked a question that I might not be able to answer intelligently?
With all that being said, wouldn’t It stand to reason that in a country of over 310,000,000 people, there are going to be a few out there who disagree with you? Absolutely there are! So why are we so invested in judging, criticizing, and arguing with each other, when we would all be better served respecting and honoring the unique individuals that we are. And we could even take it a step further by not only allowing others to have their voice, but also having a genuine interest in what they are saying!
So this inspired me to write a new bill, one that gives us the ability to reclaim personal responsibility for ourselves.
The Bill of Birth-Rights
by: Julie Hogan
Free will. I was born with a brain. I alone am responsible for the thoughts I have, the choices that I make, and the actions that I take.
Freedom of Speech. I was born with a voice. I am the only one responsible for the words that come out of my mouth. How do others hear me? Are my words filled with poison, or are they full of acceptance, hope, and the encouragement that we all so desperately need?
The Freedom to Love. I was born with a heart. Do I offer kindness and compassion to those around me? Do I take in to regards how my decisions affect others, not just what’s good for me? Do I lend a helping hand when it’s needed, choosing not to judge the reason why it is needed?
The freedom to get out there and make a difference in this world. I was born with a body. We are meant to be present in this world, we are meant to get out and serve. For most organizations that are serving others in need, having a body there is just as imperative as the donations they receive. Also, do I nourish my body with the food, exercise, and rest that are necessary to keep me energized? Am I doing what it takes to stay healthy so I can enjoy life for as long as possible and continue showing-up?
Imagine how different our world will be once we all claim responsibility for our birth rights (which is really my way of saying blessings…I just wanted to make sure I was being politically correct!)
Friday, November 5, 2010
The Morning Moon
A beautiful day was waiting on me, all I had to do was walk out the door.
Julie Hogan
My son likes to watch Arthur (a kids cartoon) while he eats his breakfast. On this morning it so happened they were writing poems, I thought it sounded fun, so I decided I would write one as well. I sat down and
jotted a few lines, but then needed to continue with the morning routine.
jotted a few lines, but then needed to continue with the morning routine.
As we walked out the front door I was instantly awe-struck by the sky...
the color, the clouds, the moon, and how the bare trees made the scene appear even more mysterious. I ran back inside to get my camera, not letting today be another one of those days..."if I just had my camera, what a great shot that would be".
I took some really beautiful pictures, and decided to finish the poem that I started. I have to admit that it feels a little corny, not having much memory of writing anything other than "roses are red" poems. But oh well, here's my first attempt at something new!
Today, today
I simply must choose,
Love, respect, forgiveness and joy Anything else, I thoughtfully refuse.
Today is the day
Tomorrow is much too late,For gratitude and kindness
Remembering, I am responsible for what I create.
Today, today
Will I open my heart,
To the miracles and blessings
Which have been there from the start?
Today is the perfect day
On tomorrow, I won’t take that chance,
Now is the time to offer my gifts
For this world, I’m meant to enhance!
Monday, November 1, 2010
Another Kind of Hoarding
Some think it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go.
-- Sylvia Robinson
Have you ever known someone who saves all their stuff because they “might need it someday”? Maybe it’s an innocent case of holding on to clothing in the hopes of one day fitting again. Or the person who smoothes out every piece of used wrapping paper, refolds every sheet of tissue paper, and holds on to every gift bag so it can be reused someday (guilty!). Then there are the severe cases, a self-destructive way of living where the person becomes incapable of letting go of anything, even throwing out the trash would be a devastating loss. It is a disorder that is very confusing and difficult to understand.
What I am here to talk about today is another type of hoarding. This one doesn’t have its own reality show (yet), but it’s equally confusing and just as difficult to understand why we do it.
The good news is you don’t need a doctor to make a diagnosis, and actually, this is one of those times it’s safe to go ahead and self-diagnose.
What I am referring to is Internal Hoarding. It is the hoarding of our natural gifts and talents, hoarding our specialized knowledge and insights. It is holding on to ideas or information that could assist others. Are we hiding our inner most dreams and stashing-away our hopes and desires. Or is it that we are holding on to a false self-image or belief, never bothering to question its truth?
Maybe you’re in a position at work were you could take someone under your wing and help grow their success, but feel too threatened to do it? Are you a closet artist, the kind that keeps all your art work behind closed doors, fearing what others may think? Do you quietly sit back keeping your opinions to yourself, only to feel disappointed that you didn’t have the courage to have your voice? Have you always had a strong feeling of what you should be doing, but continue to ignore it?
Sometimes our grasp is so tightly wrapped around what is ours...believing that it is only meant for us.
What keeps us from sharing what’s ours?
What If I were to help someone else, they might beat me out of an opportunity or look better than me. What if someone was to criticize my artwork, I would take it so personal, after all the work is a part of me. My dreams are just too far-fetched, there’s no way it’ll ever happen to me. I don’t think I’m as smart as everyone else, so I keep my opinions and ideas to myself.
What are you holding onto right now that could really help someone out? It’s time to share our dreams with someone who will encourage and assist us on our journey, or expose that side of ourselves that just might surprise others?
"Someday" is today! There's no better time to start cleaning the piles!
Monday, October 25, 2010
Decisions, decisions...
If big decisions are difficult to make, would we assume that the little ones are easy?
How do you act when you make a right decision? How do you react when you make a wrong one?
Have you ever been paralyzed "in the face" of a decision?
There have been times in my life when I have been consumed for weeks, sometimes months, over a decision I am trying to make, only to realize that it was my inability to make the decision that kept me trapped, not the actual decision itself. Once the decision was made I felt so relieved, only wishing I would have made it earlier!
The trouble is that we can’t always know when our decisions are going to turn out to be the right ones. There are going to be times we feel disappointed in our decisions, and equally there will be times we’ll be rewarded by the good ones. But just remember that the odds are …well, no longer an odd, but a guarantee to be working against you, when you stay trapped in indecision. Is this an area in your life that you want to gamble?
If not, here is a list that can help take the “in” out of indecision!
Trust yourself. Trust your judgment and your ability to make good decisions. We are all well equipped and have everything that we need.
Get honest with yourself. Ask yourself if you already know the answer, more times than not I think we do. We are just lacking the courage for the “go ahead”.
Is it realistic? Does the decision you are trying to make fit your current circumstances? Are you trying to force a square-peg into a round hole? Check back in with getting honest.
Sit on it. Sometimes it is just too tempting and we want to jump in head first! Whatever the reason-excitement, guilt, caught in the moment, too good to pass, control over-this is precisely the time to listen to the Fonz, and “sit on it”!
Ask yourself, “How will this affect my life in a week, a month, or a year?” This may offer some clarity on the importance of the decision at hand.
And then…
Make a best case and a worse case scenario list. Now ditch the best case list when you’re making your decision, because after all, we all know that things rarely work out that way! What you will be doing by taking this approach is preparing yourself for all the challenges (or hits) that are likely to come your way, making it be less likely to discourage you or throw you off track.
Now is the best time to start practicing these steps. Life guarantees that there will be a time that a decision will have to be made, and it won't afford the luxury of time. Trusting yourself and having courage may be all you’re left with!
How do you act when you make a right decision? How do you react when you make a wrong one?
Have you ever been paralyzed "in the face" of a decision?
There have been times in my life when I have been consumed for weeks, sometimes months, over a decision I am trying to make, only to realize that it was my inability to make the decision that kept me trapped, not the actual decision itself. Once the decision was made I felt so relieved, only wishing I would have made it earlier!
The trouble is that we can’t always know when our decisions are going to turn out to be the right ones. There are going to be times we feel disappointed in our decisions, and equally there will be times we’ll be rewarded by the good ones. But just remember that the odds are …well, no longer an odd, but a guarantee to be working against you, when you stay trapped in indecision. Is this an area in your life that you want to gamble?
If not, here is a list that can help take the “in” out of indecision!
Trust yourself. Trust your judgment and your ability to make good decisions. We are all well equipped and have everything that we need.
Get honest with yourself. Ask yourself if you already know the answer, more times than not I think we do. We are just lacking the courage for the “go ahead”.
Is it realistic? Does the decision you are trying to make fit your current circumstances? Are you trying to force a square-peg into a round hole? Check back in with getting honest.
Sit on it. Sometimes it is just too tempting and we want to jump in head first! Whatever the reason-excitement, guilt, caught in the moment, too good to pass, control over-this is precisely the time to listen to the Fonz, and “sit on it”!
Ask yourself, “How will this affect my life in a week, a month, or a year?” This may offer some clarity on the importance of the decision at hand.
And then…
Make a best case and a worse case scenario list. Now ditch the best case list when you’re making your decision, because after all, we all know that things rarely work out that way! What you will be doing by taking this approach is preparing yourself for all the challenges (or hits) that are likely to come your way, making it be less likely to discourage you or throw you off track.
Now is the best time to start practicing these steps. Life guarantees that there will be a time that a decision will have to be made, and it won't afford the luxury of time. Trusting yourself and having courage may be all you’re left with!
Monday, October 18, 2010
Our God-Given's
Would you agree that we all possess qualities that are individually unique and that we each have at least one talent that just comes naturally? Have you ever wondered why you have a strong conviction for a specific cause when others may have no interest at all? Do you recognize that you have a specialized ability for something that others are incapable of doing? Often we hear these unexplained gifts referred to as our “God-given gifts”.
I think it is obvious when someone is using (living) these so called God-given’s. They typically possess a drive or enthusiasm, that can make you feel…well, down-right jealous or envious. What is it that keeps them committed, what makes them so certain that they are following the right path? What takes them the extra mile regardless of where it ends up?
I think the answer is simple, but not necessarily easy.
They trust.
They bought into it. You know how it is when you just have a feeling that there is something that you need to do, you may not want to do it, but your gut tells you that you have to do it. Sometimes you get immediate confirmation that you did the right thing, when other times it may take a while. There are even those times when we don’t receive any feed-back, possibly leaving us to guess whether or not we did the right thing.
It is simple. If you trust the messages (signs, inklings, nudges, or whatever you want to call them) from God, then know there is nothing that goes unnoticed.
But it’s not always easy. Sometimes it can be hard to have faith in knowing that you are right where you are needed and where you are suppose to be, even when it’s not necessarily where you want to be.
I believe when we are using our God-given abilities, we will find ourselves frequently in unchartered territory. We are trusted, because we have trusted. When we have the courage to do what our heart is calling on us to do, we will constantly be rewarded with yet another situation, where we’ll be faced with yet another decision.
Well…what’s it gonna be?
I think it is obvious when someone is using (living) these so called God-given’s. They typically possess a drive or enthusiasm, that can make you feel…well, down-right jealous or envious. What is it that keeps them committed, what makes them so certain that they are following the right path? What takes them the extra mile regardless of where it ends up?
I think the answer is simple, but not necessarily easy.
They trust.
They bought into it. You know how it is when you just have a feeling that there is something that you need to do, you may not want to do it, but your gut tells you that you have to do it. Sometimes you get immediate confirmation that you did the right thing, when other times it may take a while. There are even those times when we don’t receive any feed-back, possibly leaving us to guess whether or not we did the right thing.
It is simple. If you trust the messages (signs, inklings, nudges, or whatever you want to call them) from God, then know there is nothing that goes unnoticed.
But it’s not always easy. Sometimes it can be hard to have faith in knowing that you are right where you are needed and where you are suppose to be, even when it’s not necessarily where you want to be.
I believe when we are using our God-given abilities, we will find ourselves frequently in unchartered territory. We are trusted, because we have trusted. When we have the courage to do what our heart is calling on us to do, we will constantly be rewarded with yet another situation, where we’ll be faced with yet another decision.
Well…what’s it gonna be?
Friday, October 15, 2010
Who's the teacher?
Who wants to be told what to do? Is there anyone you know who wants a bunch of rules shoved down their throat? When someone barks orders at you, do you find this to be an effective way of communicating?
I’ll just go ahead and start this off by referring to myself. A sure-fire way to shut me down (and by that I really mean…tick me off), would be to think that you are going to tell me what to do. My guess is most people feel the same way to some extent, but this just really happens to be a BIG one for me! I have an example that already happened this morning, and for the unexpected individual it would go by unnoticed, but it didn’t slip by my husband! Here’s what happened. Rob says “hey, grab me a Kroger bag while you’re out there”. So of course I purposely grabbed a CVS bag. He then say’s “I thought I told you to get me a Kroger bag”, and I say “you got a CVS bag…cuz you’re not gonna tell me what to do!” We both know how goofy it is, but we also know how very real it is for me, so we make light of it when we can!
So…. knowing that most adults prefer to make their own decisions and would rather not have someone telling them what to do, how do I take this information and apply it with my children? Why would I think my children would just simply accept being told what to do, when in fact I don’t? Why would I think that focusing on all the “rules” would be an effective way of parenting, when indeed I shut down when I am not given the freedom to be…different.
The very fact that I'm asking these questions means to me that it's probably time that I show up different in my relationship with my children. How do I become a resource for them, how do I build a trust that lets them know I am safe to come to?
As a parent it is our responsibility to keep our children safe, and with that we must set boundaries and limitations. So how do we do this while allowing the freedom and independence that is also needed? I'm thinking it may be a little easier if I can keep a few things in mind.
There are just some things we must accept as parents:
· Our children will get hurt
· They are going to make poor decisions
· What’s important to us-will most likely not be important to them!
· There will be times they HATE us
· There will be times we have to make extremely hard decisions
Some important things to remember along the way:
· Our kids are unique, creative, active, and resourceful individuals (aka…exhausting!)
· They need their personal space
· They are trying to make their way the best they can
· We are setting the most important examples…the good and the bad
· Sometimes they are looking for “an excuse” to say no…gladly accept that it will be you!
· When we want to judge and react, maybe what they most need is love and acceptance
· I will need resources so I can keep being my best for them
I also realize that this list is not only a tool for becoming a better parent, but it also seems to be what we are all looking for. Once again, one of the old sayings is proving true…our children are here to teach us.
I’ll just go ahead and start this off by referring to myself. A sure-fire way to shut me down (and by that I really mean…tick me off), would be to think that you are going to tell me what to do. My guess is most people feel the same way to some extent, but this just really happens to be a BIG one for me! I have an example that already happened this morning, and for the unexpected individual it would go by unnoticed, but it didn’t slip by my husband! Here’s what happened. Rob says “hey, grab me a Kroger bag while you’re out there”. So of course I purposely grabbed a CVS bag. He then say’s “I thought I told you to get me a Kroger bag”, and I say “you got a CVS bag…cuz you’re not gonna tell me what to do!” We both know how goofy it is, but we also know how very real it is for me, so we make light of it when we can!
So…. knowing that most adults prefer to make their own decisions and would rather not have someone telling them what to do, how do I take this information and apply it with my children? Why would I think my children would just simply accept being told what to do, when in fact I don’t? Why would I think that focusing on all the “rules” would be an effective way of parenting, when indeed I shut down when I am not given the freedom to be…different.
The very fact that I'm asking these questions means to me that it's probably time that I show up different in my relationship with my children. How do I become a resource for them, how do I build a trust that lets them know I am safe to come to?
As a parent it is our responsibility to keep our children safe, and with that we must set boundaries and limitations. So how do we do this while allowing the freedom and independence that is also needed? I'm thinking it may be a little easier if I can keep a few things in mind.
There are just some things we must accept as parents:
· Our children will get hurt
· They are going to make poor decisions
· What’s important to us-will most likely not be important to them!
· There will be times they HATE us
· There will be times we have to make extremely hard decisions
Some important things to remember along the way:
· Our kids are unique, creative, active, and resourceful individuals (aka…exhausting!)
· They need their personal space
· They are trying to make their way the best they can
· We are setting the most important examples…the good and the bad
· Sometimes they are looking for “an excuse” to say no…gladly accept that it will be you!
· When we want to judge and react, maybe what they most need is love and acceptance
· I will need resources so I can keep being my best for them
I also realize that this list is not only a tool for becoming a better parent, but it also seems to be what we are all looking for. Once again, one of the old sayings is proving true…our children are here to teach us.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Quietly satisfied and happy
Most of my life I have battled the thought of being content. To be content was to sit around doing nothing with your life, while leaving everything to chance. I envisioned something along the lines of watching TV and eating junk food all day, while slowly becoming a recluse. (Note to reader: remember that I tend to live in the extremes of all or nothing, black or white, highs and lows!) Being content was to settle, to simply accept whatever comes your way, not taking the proper steps that are necessary in achieving your goals. My husband would often say, “You really don’t believe that good things can just happen?” Honestly, I didn't. To me that would be relying on hope and wishful thinking, and not to mention lazy, I wouldn't be in control of my life.
But lately something strange has been happening, I’m having all these crazy thoughts and feelings. Although I keep trying to fight them off, they are proving to be pretty powerful. It’s like I’m experiencing these momentary feelings of...contentment. And oddly enough, I’m really liken’ it!
Call me corny, but when I read this definition it made me feel good, I felt calm and at ease, I had and a strong sense of…….
But lately something strange has been happening, I’m having all these crazy thoughts and feelings. Although I keep trying to fight them off, they are proving to be pretty powerful. It’s like I’m experiencing these momentary feelings of...contentment. And oddly enough, I’m really liken’ it!
I decided that I better look up the meaning of this word (I have this weird love of dictionaries, and hand held calculators also!), after all, maybe I’ve had the wrong definition stuck in my head all this time.
Quietly satisfied and happy
Call me corny, but when I read this definition it made me feel good, I felt calm and at ease, I had and a strong sense of…….
Contentment
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
Finding Passion
Tonight I had the opportunity to explore what passion means to me, how I define it, and how I apply it in my every day. I participated in a tele-conference The Personal Passion Project which happens to be my Brother’s “baby” in the making for 2 years now. I am proud of Brian for his commitment and follow-through in getting the project up and running. Although I feel I have to admit………my initial reason for signing on was to support my brother and be a filler. To my surprise, I immediately had great insights and felt excited to get started on the 6 week journey.
To kick it off we had a questionnaire to fill out, and right away I felt stressed. There was no one thing that came to mind that I could list as “my passion”. So I skipped around to some of the other questions hoping they would spark some insights.
What I realized is that I am not lacking passion, I actually tend to be overly passionate……so much I feel it to be detriment. I spend a lot (a lot) of time focused on what I don’t want, what I don’t agree with, and what I think should be different. I use up a ton of energy wishing I knew what to do next, wanting someone to give me the guarantees. Why oh why can’t someone just tell me exactly what to do? I guess for starters, I’d be ticked-off because I don’t like anyone trying to tell me what to do!
There ya have it, my big insight..............
I am passionate. But I’m the only one who can decide how I direct it. Positive or negative, either way it’s a choice.
So hey, check out Brian’s website @ http://www.personalpassionproject.com/. Why not be passionate about supporting others on their journey!
To kick it off we had a questionnaire to fill out, and right away I felt stressed. There was no one thing that came to mind that I could list as “my passion”. So I skipped around to some of the other questions hoping they would spark some insights.
What I realized is that I am not lacking passion, I actually tend to be overly passionate……so much I feel it to be detriment. I spend a lot (a lot) of time focused on what I don’t want, what I don’t agree with, and what I think should be different. I use up a ton of energy wishing I knew what to do next, wanting someone to give me the guarantees. Why oh why can’t someone just tell me exactly what to do? I guess for starters, I’d be ticked-off because I don’t like anyone trying to tell me what to do!
There ya have it, my big insight..............
I am passionate. But I’m the only one who can decide how I direct it. Positive or negative, either way it’s a choice.
So hey, check out Brian’s website @ http://www.personalpassionproject.com/. Why not be passionate about supporting others on their journey!
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Ahhh Summer!
Wow, I haven't been here for a while and it brings up that-all too familiar feeling-of when you let something go for too long and you don't quite know how to pick things back up, step back in or say the right words. So I'll simply offer the truth-I've been absorbed with summer and the kids, having parties with the family, and working around the yard. We've had birthdays-lots of birthdays-from June 4th to July 5th seven of us celebrated another year, including my own 38th....Yikes! There's been father's day, anniversary parties, and the 4th of July. It has been a jammed-packed month and it was great!
I'm excited to get back to some writing, heck, next time I'll do this out by the pool!
I'm excited to get back to some writing, heck, next time I'll do this out by the pool!
Sunday, May 16, 2010
I was just thinking........
I am always telling people that it is my belief that I was not put on this earth to work my butt off. I can go off on a rampage about how crazy it seems to me that I am sending my 9 and 11 year off to school for more hours in a week than I am willing to put in at my job. And then, as if the 37 hours they are gone isn’t enough, they come home with at least another hour of homework each night. I have a hard time stomaching the thought of sending them to school for 12 years, only to know that for most careers they will need to go on for another 2-5, just to have the possibility of even being considered for the job. It drives me bonkers when 3 out of the 4 corners have a gas station on it, or when there are competing drug stores opposite each other on the same street. Ooh-ooh, what makes me even more furious is that there are two dollar type stores within a quarter mile of each other, and at least 2 more just in my community alone!
The truth is I could fill up pages with this stuff, but something just hit me. I’m an expert at complaining. I always have a gripe about how or why I think things should be different. Without giving it a thought I could tell you what I don’t like or what I don’t stand for. Actually, this part I already knew. The part that just hit me was……….Duh, instead of spending all my time griping and complaining, why not say what it is that I do believe in and be more solution oriented. Why not replace my negativity for a positive approach?
Hmm, doing something like that would take courage. Others might not agree with me, they might criticize my ideas and call me crazy. What if they don’t understand me? Why does this sound so familiar?!
The truth is I could fill up pages with this stuff, but something just hit me. I’m an expert at complaining. I always have a gripe about how or why I think things should be different. Without giving it a thought I could tell you what I don’t like or what I don’t stand for. Actually, this part I already knew. The part that just hit me was……….Duh, instead of spending all my time griping and complaining, why not say what it is that I do believe in and be more solution oriented. Why not replace my negativity for a positive approach?
Hmm, doing something like that would take courage. Others might not agree with me, they might criticize my ideas and call me crazy. What if they don’t understand me? Why does this sound so familiar?!
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